‘Mum, if a man was bald. did Hitler check their pubes to make sure they were blond, even when he had seen they had blue eyes?’ This was my teenage daughter to me yesterday. You may have guessed, they are onto the second world war in their history syllabus!
I was so stunned, I said ask your dad, knowing that if we were now on the subject of pubic hair there was no way she was going to ask him as she is also at a stage where I seem to be getting a different type of conversation with her to what she brings up with her dad. As normal, certain things just embarrass her talking to him. To my surprise she marched down the stairs and asked him the question. I am sure he is still in shock as he was very comfortable with her avoiding him when it comes to certain issues.
Why am I sharing this with you here, Africa on the blog? A few reasons really. The first being that I just laughed so much once I had recovered. The fact that she had spent so much time thinking this though and had come up with that. Believe me we have been talking about the second world war a lot since last term (Sept-Dec). I have brought her quite a few books as added reading on the subject and we have had many intelligent /’high brow’ discussions around the subject. The point though is , I have shared on here and twitter that I have been having a hard time with a family illness that just seem a roller coaster ride every day. So to have that short time of intense laughter was like a tonic for me. IMAGE SOURCE
Second thing is I had promised that I would share experiences about being African, black and a mother on here and not necessarily all there in the same blog. and if this is not a challenge being a mother I do not know what is!
This also showed an added maturity in her, as she could talk to her dad about it! As children we notice the first steps, word, tooth and many milestones. I also do my best to notice milestones in these teenage years and for our family this was very important!
They come in very subtle disguises! So what did I do next? I sat down and discussed the fact the said I did not even know whether blondes had blonde pubic hair and would have to check on the internet as I was worried that the subject matter might bring up unsuitable results for her to do the search! This was not my only response as we also talked about the fact that it was a plan in action for the future rather than everyone having to be Aryan at that precise moment.
I am not going to discuss the results of my search but hope I have not offended anyone this morning!
By the way, last week she had said that if she had one question for Hitler it would be ‘ Mr Hitler, what is it about you that you see every morning in the mirror that makes you think that blonde, blue eyed is the way to go?’
I originally trained as a cancer nurse in London. I moved into the pharmaceutical industry after eight years of nursing, went into a variety of sales and marketing roles and left three years ago to become self employed.
I am now launching a lingerie line for women of colour to complement their skin tones in the UK and US
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